After the loss of a loved one, once the services are over and the relatives and friends have gone home, we are left to enter a strange new land, where someone who has given meaning to our life is gone. Drawing on her own experience as well as that of others, author Martha Whitmore Hickman presents a year's worth of meditations for people dealing with this profound loss, offering solace and illuminating a way forward. From January 1 to December 31, each day's meditation considers a meaningful quotation or passage on grief or suffering, with sources ranging Shakespeare to Emily Dickinson, from the Christian Bible to Hindu proverbs. A thoughtful, sensitive collection, Healing After Loss will comfort and inspire listeners on their journeys through grief toward recovery.
I put down these memorandums of my affections In honor of tenderness, in
honor of all of those who have been Conscripted into the brotherhood Of
loss ... - Edward Hirsch
When we are drawn into the brotherhood or sisterhood of loss, tenderness
seems to be our natural state. We are so vulnerable. Everything brushes
against the raw wound of our grief, reminding us of what we have lost,
triggering memories - a tilt of the head, a laugh, a way of walking, a
touch, a particular conversation. These images are like beads strung
together on the necklace of loss. Tenderly, we turn them again and
again. We cannot bear them. We cannot let them go.
Then, gradually, bit by bit, the binding thread of grief somehow
transmutes, reconstitutes itself as a thread of treasured memories - a
tilt of the head, a laugh, a way of walking, a touch, a particular
conversation as gifts from the life we shared with the one we have lost,
gifts that can never be taken away.
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