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Savvy Stories: Funny Things I Learned From My Daughter [Kindle Edition]

Savvy Stories: Funny Things I Learned From My Daughter [Kindle Edition]

by Dan Alatorre

ISBN: B00EUMARZM

Publisher Dan Alatorre

Published in Literature & Fiction/Humor, Humor & Entertainment, Parenting & Families/Family Relationships, Parenting & Relationships, Health, Fitness & Dieting

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Book Description

Bestselling author and humorist Dan Alatorre's brings us into his living room for funny and delightful stories about the real meaning of fatherhood and parenting. "Savvy" is the nickname of his daughter, and "Savvy Stories" is a fun filled romp through the early years of having a baby. These stories will have you chuckling at the universal message of bringing up baby - and watching her take over the house! Equal parts funny and touching, Savvy Stories shows you why all kids are special.

Sample Chapter

Savvy Is Born

Imagine a hospital room where a woman is about to give birth: nurses are hurriedly coming and going, machines are going beep, beep, beep, a doctor checks the dilation; and over in the corner some idiot is posting about it on Facebook like he is doing a play-by-play.

That idiot would be me.

The soon-to-be, first-time Dad.

Posting on Facebook from the delivery room? Hey, there wasn’t much else for me to be doing at the time, and we had created quite a Facebook following – accidentally – about this oncoming birth. And the little baby girl that was about to arrive was going to change my life in so many ways, but I just had no idea at the time. No idea. What first time dad does?

This was even more the case with me: I was 46 years old and about to become a dad for the first time in my life.

By that age, you have a lot of things pretty much set in your life. I never expected baby stuff all over the place with a newborn. They can’t really do much, right? How much stuff do they need? Within days of bringing that kid home from the hospital, baby stuff was everywhere - and my wife and I keep a pretty tidy home. My daughter Savannah, who we nicknamed “Savvy,” was born at the end of March, and by the end of the first week of April there was baby stuff in every single room of the house. It was amazing. I think the kid was planning on taking over the whole time.

We made all kinds of new parent mistakes, too, even though you’d think at our age we might have known better. One night in mid-April, the kid’s about 3 weeks old or so, and I stupidly suggest that we put the baby to sleep in her bassinette in our bedroom, while we watch TV downstairs and listen to her via the monitor - which directly results in my wife and I falling asleep on the couches and making the baby’s quest for domination of the entire house complete.

Crafty little girl; the whole conquest only took three weeks.

By the end of April, I was convinced that I stunk! I couldn’t figure out what the deal was. I thought, “I smell like baby formula all the time. I smell it everywhere.” It had inundated my olfactory senses and wouldn't let go or something. Oh, and I'm sure my Family Room smells like ammonia because that's where the diaper pail is. Welcome to my house; hold your breath!

But there were other things I never anticipated; amazing little beautiful moments that you probably don’t realize will ever happen pre-dad, and post-dad you really end up cherishing them.

Lots of things I never expected, and never expected that I’d enjoy them so much; so deeply… you can call me a dork but I’m going to tell you this anyway. We’re watching TV the other evening, me on one part of the couch, my wife on another; the dog staked out a corner, the kid, now 2, is playing on the floor. But it’s getting close to bedtime so the lights are off and the room is only lit by the glow of the TV and from the Christmas tree.

My daughter puts down her toy, climbs onto the couch, crawls into my lap and says, “I love you Daddy.”

Big hug.

A moment later, she’s asleep in my arms, her head resting heavily on my shoulder.

I’ll probably remember that moment for 20 years; maybe forever. It’s just a great moment.

There are bizarre moments, too. Like with Barbies. What is it with the naked Barbies? You can walk into my living room any time of day and there's a stack of naked 10” Barbie dolls over in the corner and my daughter is playing with the dresses. I'm not raising a 10 year old boy who is curious about the female form, I'm raising a 2 year old girl who will meticulously arrange all the dresses in a row and then tell me she needs MORE dresses, and meanwhile Barbie, Cinderella and all her friends are looking like they are headed for a nude beach.

At least the 3” mini-Barbies have a leotard painted on. Those are headed for the pool, I guess.

The thing is, she loves them and really enjoys playing with them. The dresses, that is. Barbie is apparently just a hanger for the dress.

And there are some great dad-type realizations, too, that let you know you’re probably going to be a good parent. After a month of having a baby in the house, I noted: I love the fact that I can take a sleeping baby into a room with a treadmill in it, and knock out a very noisy 1-mile run with the TV blaring - and she sleeps through it. But I hate it when, at 2am, if she merely gurgles, I immediately wake right up. Something’s wrong there.

And there are just millions of things you can do as a kid that you forget all about as an adult. A kid can just get away with stuff that adults can’t. At least, not without getting hauled away to the funny farm. When you're a kid, you can poop right at the kitchen table, right in the middle of dinner. You can’t do that as an adult! With a kid, pretty much nobody even blinks at that. Somebody gets up to go change your diaper and everybody else keeps right on eating. When you're a kid, if somebody gives you something to eat and you don't like it, you can show your displeasure by vomiting the offending item all over the hostess's table. Simple things like a helium balloon are just freaking awesome. And it's no big deal to brush the cat with your toothbrush. Well, not to you, anyway; Mom has different thoughts on the subject.

When you’re a little kid, the step down from the sidewalk to the street must be navigated very carefully. Stuff like this doesn’t even register on an adult’s radar screen any more, but to a kid it’s all new and exciting; something you still have to learn. It reawakens your appreciation to see some little toddler figuring something out for the first time, and if you’re lucky, you get to be alongside to watch.

And if you’re me, maybe you write it down.

Which brings us back to the delivery room, with me posting away like a goofball. You must be wondering how we got here.

Well, not in the usual way, that’s for sure…

See, we are a bit older than the typical first time parents. By about 20 years. Not by choice, mind you, but that’s just how it worked out. It took a little time for medical science to catch up to our problems in conception, so by the time we were having our first kid, most of our high school friends had kids that were going off to college. Some friends were already grandparents.

So the shock of hearing about us finally being “with child” was pretty interesting to a lot of folks. And their advice, since they were trusted friends who had been there and done that already several times, was invaluable to me. My wife and her mom are very close, but my own mother had passed away years before; so it was really helpful to me to have a bunch of friends who I knew and trusted, that I could ask basic first-time dad questions of, and get good reliable information from.

But the information they passed along is probably timeless, too, applying to the hopes and fears of any first time dad-to-be and mom-to-be.

Oh, and rest assured, my friends loved reading about my dilemma – dilemmas – and offering help with a side dish of humor. Or sarcasm. But their input was comforting to a guy who couldn’t call his mom. Plus, they got to re-live their own experiences with every question of mine, and a lot of the time they were able to happily reminisce about it. So it was good for them, and it was good for me.

See, when we first told everybody we had a baby on the way, there was a lot of outpouring of support, but as time went by and I started asking questions that anybody about to become a parents for the first time would ask, I didn’t really have parents to go to; so I asked my friends who had their own kids, and I did it on Facebook. They were helpful, too, and as the due date crept closer and closer, it inadvertently created a bit of a following that lead to me giving constant updates about all kinds of things, almost like a soap opera that unfolds in real time. People were logging in every day for updates, and I was happy to provide them. I needed the info, and they were enjoying the ride.

I guess I had recently discovered social media; let’s blame that. I had shunned it for over a year as my wife and her friends all played Gangster Wars, but one day I decided I was the odd man out, and I caved in. I started playing and before you know it, I was hooked. Some of you know the feeling. FarmTown or whatever. I had signed up over two thousand or three thousand strangers as Gangster Wars friends on Facebook, just to play that game, and I was even checking in on my Gangster Wars casinos between appointments at work - to make sure no rival gang lord had robbed them.

At some point, I decided I was taking it too far (ya think?), and scaled back. Way back. I deleted thousands of my FB “friends” that I had added just to play games with, and boiled it down to just a few – the folks I’m really friends with, a few old high school pals that are fun to correspond with, and that was about it.

Then a funny thing happened. While I really didn’t miss the gang wars, I did miss the interaction with the old gang from high school. Keep in mind, I hadn’t kept in touch with just about any of them, but there was something fulfilling about reconnecting with people who knew you well when you were just starting to become who you are. People who you know and trust, whose families have known your family for decades.

That came in handy when we discovered that we had a baby on the way.

A baby! At our age?

Even something as normal and natural as having a baby, we couldn’t do in the standard way. Remember, our friends from high school were talking about the colleges their kids were going to. Some were about to become grandparents themselves.

A baby!

Um, yeah…

See, for years we’d been trying, with no success. When we first got married, we were trying to not become pregnant. We were focused on our careers and putting money away, travelling… Then, we built a house and we started not trying to not get pregnant. Not trying to get pregnant, really, but not doing things that would prevent it. Then, after a few years of that, we started actually trying.

And when that didn’t work, we thought maybe there was something wrong. And there was. To put it politely, there were enough things wrong on both sides for no baby to be coming any time soon. Maybe ever.

It was recommended that I try some different underwear. Then it was recommended by our doctor that my wife and I have sex every day for weeks on end - which is not as much fun as you’d think, although there’s really no pressure to perform, because the goal is just to get the little guys in there to get to work.

Then when that didn’t work, some experts looked around and recommended a number of surgeries. Some were covered by insurance, and some were not. So, we’d plan a vacation to a specialist, take some time off, get the surgery, and tour the local wineries. A few weeks or months later, we’d find out we still weren’t pregnant. My wife would be devastated. She’d cry, and I’d scramble to try to find some reason to keep looking forward. “Our kids are out there,” I told her, “we just have to work harder than other families to find them.” And when we did finally find them, we might appreciate them even more.

I also said to myself that these crushing defeats were so bad that it was probably better to stop than to keep letting my wife get her hopes up just to have them plunge off a cliff and smash all over the rocks below.

Then, a new doctor had some new ideas.

And all of a sudden, we had a positive blood test. That means, somebody’s actually WITH CHILD.

Well, alert the media! Call the press! Phone the parents!

No, you don’t do that because, due to the age of the parents and the lack of prior success, it was better to wait and make sure. That takes a few more months.

So, on Labor Day, we happened to have a bunch of family over to our house for a party, and we had our positive blood test, and we decided to announce that sometime in March or April, a new member of the family would be arriving.

Cheers and celebrations all around. Even though both sets of our parents had already been grandparents for quite a while from our respective brothers and sisters, grandparents love the idea of more babies, and it was like fireworks. What a great way to announce the news to everyone.

Except, this being a private thing, and me being a private person, I did not mention it to my friends on any social media, or anybody at work, or anywhere else, really.

For a while, anyway.

Every guy, when his wife first tells him that he’s going to become a father, he’s fired up. It’s a happy moment but it also has a scary element to it. While he sincerely just wants a healthy baby with ten fingers and ten toes, and a wife that emerges unscathed from the birthing process – and he will say that repeatedly as often as possible, whether asked or not - when he starts to think about it later, he wants the baby to be a boy.

The first one, anyway. It’s not a sexist thing; guys figure, we understand boys. We were boys once; it’s familiar territory, most of it. And guys will candidly admit, we barely understand women. There’s a chance we’ll screw up a daughter. That’s a scary thought. Right or wrong, we think there’s less likelihood of screwing up a boy if we’re trying not to, but given our track record with women, there’s a better chance we’d mess up a girl even if we’re doing our best and really trying not to.

And have you ever seen one of those families with four kids and they’re all girls? That dad was going for a boy! He figured, eventually the odds would work in his favor – but he’s 4 and 0 and he’s still thinking he can talk his wife into number five. She’s thinking about vasectomies.

My kid goes to swim class with a little girl who has six sisters, all between the ages of about 10 and 3 (the one in my kid’s swim class is three years old). Their mom looks… tired. They’re great kids, too, how they all pitch in and help with things. They cheer for each other when their different swim classes are going on.

And there’s a last little Bundle Of Joy that the mom has in a stroller.

I haven’t had the courage to ask if it’s a boy or a girl.

It’s the guy’s fault, too, if he has seven girls. He’s the one who contributes that X or Y chromosome that determines it. So he can’t blame anybody but himself, no matter what King Henry the 8th said.

See, a guy knows about boys. He knows he can teach his boy to throw a football or baseball, even if he was terrible at it himself (mainly because he knows he’ll be more coordinated and stronger than his kid during most of that early training on how to throw a spiral pass, and compared to his kid, he’ll look like Joe Montana for most of it). What does a guy know about Barbies? We had G.I. Joe! What we know about tumbling and gymnastics is only what we picked up from our wives every four years during the Olympics, and we were just being a good sport about watching that – it’s on for one week every four years; we’ll trade that for almost six months of NFL every year (if you count pre-season through Super Bowl). We can’t teach a little girl to tumble. We can’t tumble. Not on purpose, anyway.

Continues...

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Dan Alatorre

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Best-Selling author and humorist Dan Alatorre turns his sights on fatherhood in "Savvy Stories," and the results are hilarious.

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