Cultivate Positive Thoughts and Feelings
Our emotions have a direct effect on our bodies. Every time we feel an
emotion, our endocrine system excretes certain hormones and/or peptides
that flow throughout our blood stream to all of our cells exiting them
with the “hormones of this emotion”. The hormonal state created by
negative emotions creates an imbalance in our nervous, endocrine and
immune system, which in turn creates an imbalance in all other systems
as well. Subsequently, we are much more susceptible to illness and
Medical Studies at the “HeartMath Institute” in California have
shown that five minutes of anger or frustration can weaken aspects of
the immune system for up to five hours, whereas five minutes of love or
gratitude can strengthen the immune system for five hours.
Other studies have shown that we become chemically addicted to the
hormonal excretions produced by certain emotions. We tend to
subconsciously seek ways to recreate those feelings and their respective
“hormonal doses”. We actually become chemically addicted - just like
any other addictive substance - to feeling fear, anger, hurt,
bitterness, hate or guilt, attracting and creating situations in which
we can once again experience those familiar emotions.
Our mind creates our reality.
Perhaps the worse result, because of the law of attraction, is that our
negative feelings and thinking attract more of what we are feeling
negative about. This might also be called the law of mirroring,
sympathetic vibration or the law of manifestation.
Our mind, thoughts, emotions, expectations and behaviors actually create
our reality. When we change them, our reality then changes. In the same
way, positive thoughts and feelings attract and create positive
This is the test of our times; to feel confident and positive even when
our external reality does not inspire positive thinking. This is where
the “centered” will be separated from the “fearful”. Those who
are able to continue to feel confident in their ability to deal with and
overcome challenges will do well. Those who succumb to fear, anxiety,
anger, and hate - as it is very easy to do so - will suffer even more.
Others mirror our emotions.
We broadcast our emotions whether we express them or not. These energies
trigger others to react and behave in ways that reflect our emotions.
When we submit for lengthy periods of time to intense negative emotions
(not just momentary feelings which are natural and harmless), we
actually increase the possibility that others will behave negatively
Even when we are “innocent” and have done no harm to anyone, our
fear of others will subconsciously invite them to behave in ways that
mirror our fears. The same is true for our feelings of anger, guilt,
pain, betrayal, hate, bitterness, rejection, criticism, and all other
negative feelings. So I repeat once again, such emotions actually
increase the possibility of attracting what we feel negatively towards.
The power of gratitude.
One way to generate positive feelings is to focus on all we have that we
can feel grateful for. Even when we do not have everything that we want
or believe that we must have in order to feel happy, we can always focus
on what we do have. When we concentrate only on what we do not have, we
lose sight of all that we actually do have. As a consequence we do not
allow what we do have to give us pleasure, security and happiness.
We may not have the money or material security that we would like to
have, but we may have people that we love and who love us. We may have
good or sufficient health to enjoy life. We may have shelter and food.
We may have electricity and running water. We may even have hot running
water. If we have books and a TV, then we are probably in the top 20% of
the well-off people of the world. If we have even a little money in the
bank, then we are in the top 8% of the population.
We can feel grateful for the air we breathe, the flowers, trees, and
birds around us. And, if we live near a park, forest, mountain or any
body of water, then we can find pleasure of their presence in our lives.
Even in difficult times, we can enjoy the people, animals and nature
If we know how to read and have gained various forms of knowledge, then
we are very special and blessed. If we have access to Internet, then we
are amongst 6% of the people of the planet who have access to a
computer. If we have a telephone we are better off than the 3 billion
people (50% of the planet) who do not have one and may have not even
Feeling gratitude for all that we do have causes to attract more of what
we need. When we feel gratitude, we broadcast positive energy that then
mirrors back to us from other people and the universe in the form of
more of whatever causes us to feel even greater gratitude. When we feel
lucky to have what we have, we attract more of whatever makes us feel
lucky. On the other hand, when we feel unloved, unlucky and discouraged
we attract more of whatever causes us to feel those negative feelings.
It is important to perceive life as friendly rather than as dangerous.
We have learned and become programmed to see life as difficult and
unsafe. This is because for many thousands of years society has
identified with the body and mind, ignoring our spiritual self and the
actual reason we, as spirit, are in these temporary bodies.
Nothing is by chance.
One basic change we need to make in the way we think is to realize that
nothing in our lives ever happened by chance, nothing is now happening
by chance and nothing will ever occur by chance. We are loved beyond
measure by the divine, life and the universe. Everything that happens in
our lives occurs as an opportunity for our growth and evolution. We
create these events and situations either with our unenlightened
choices, feelings and thoughts or as “soul choices” before we are
The reality is that we are actually immortal, formless consciousness
temporarily occupying a body for the purpose of remembering our true
eternal nature while in this body and manifesting in this material level
harmony, love, unity, and beauty that already exist in our spiritual
Having this in mind, there are only two reasons why something unpleasant
happens in our lives; one is that we, in our ignorance and fear, are
attracting negative realities and the other is that on a spiritual level
we have chosen this experience as an opportunity to wake up
We are personally loved.
We have all together, as humanity, created and chosen this situation as
an opportunity to take our next step towards spiritual freedom from fear
by creating a deeper connection with our unlimited inner power. Based on
this perception, we can now begin to understand and feel that we are
each personally loved unconditionally by the Divine and the universe.
There is nothing that has ever happened to us, or is now happening, or
will ever happen in the enfoldment of our lives that is not our creation
– whether by our ego choices or by our soul choices. There is no such
thing as punishment. There is no danger. Nothing can happen by chance.
Nothing will ever happen that is not in our ultimate benefit as souls
seeking to remember our true selves in these material bodies where we
have lost that feeling of formless immortality.
Every event, every outcome is an expression of love from the universe
giving us the opportunity to realize the truth or not. We have free
will. We can use these experiences for our ultimate purpose; to discover
greater inner worth, security, freedom, and fulfillment. Or, we can sink
into fear, discouragement, pain, bitterness, resentment, anger, guilt,
hate, and/or helplessness. This is our free will. These events have
been created by our previous and present thoughts, words, actions, and
our soul’s choices in conjunction with the lessons we have chosen
personally and communally to learn at this point in our evolutionary
process. But how we use and react to these events and situations is our
free choice. This is the choice we have in “times of testing”.
There is no divine punishment
We must not confuse, as we have for thousands of years, the
opportunities offered by these tests that we have set up for ourselves
with any type of punishment. There is no divine punishment. This is an
illusion. How could a divine being of unconditional love, who asks us to
love even our enemies, ever have negative feelings toward or punish
his/her creations, which are actually projections of itself on the
material plane? It doesn’t make any sense. The idea of punishment from
God or the universe is an old, rather childish perception of the Divine
that has lost its usefulness as we move forward to realizing and
manifesting our own inner divine potential.
It is essential that we free ourselves from the feeling that we live in
a difficult, unfriendly and punishing universe.
Learning and manifesting.
We are in a process of learning to manifest ever more positive realities
with abundance, peace, equality, love, and happiness for all; this is
our life purpose. We have accepted to forget our true formless self in
order to temporarily identify with the body and mind. In the highest
levels of our being we love everyone – even those who harm and disturb
us. Our ego might not love them, but we do love them. Christ asks us to
love even those who harm us because, by doing so, we are connecting to
our true spiritual self who actually already loves the others and cannot
When we realize that we live in a loving reality, we will feel secure
and peaceful in all situations and we will be able to help those around
us to do the same. Our energy will then be diverted from fear,
resentment and anger towards seeking solutions personally and
collectively. We will be much more effective in creating the security,
abundance and happiness we seek.
You can do this by realizing and remembering the following:
You are, actually, an immortal Divine Consciousness who has temporarily
projected your consciousness into your body. There is no birth, only a
temporary projection of your consciousness into this body and mind. You
were actually never born and will never die.
One day, you will simply retract your consciousness from your body at a
time that you choose which may happen slowly or suddenly. Regardless of
the conditions of your withdrawal, you cannot and will not retract your
consciousness from your body until your own chosen time. Even in the
extreme possibility that someone might “murder” you; it can only
happen with your own inner concurrence – which of course your ego and
mind will have no awareness of.
The same is true for all the events that have occurred and will occur in
your life. Nothing happens that you have not in some way created or
chosen on some level. Everything that has happened, is happening and
will ever happen is always the best opportunity for your growth and
awakening to the truth. You can be at peace with the fact that only that
which serves your best possible interest as a soul in the process of
your evolution will ever take place.
Equally, all of your loved ones are also eternal, immortal fellow souls
who have chosen to play their temporary roles in your life drama (as you
are playing your role in theirs) and who have chosen their own
experiences and lessons. Nothing is happening or will happen in their
lives that is not what they are freely creating and choosing as
opportunities for learning their own chosen lessons. They too have free
will to learn or not. They may have to create more pain before they are
ready to learn. Sometimes we can help them, and other times they are not
open or ready for help. This is something we need to accept and be at
Worrying or fearing for our loved ones only undermines their own sense
of power and self-confidence. We can help them much more effectively by
perceiving them as eternal, powerful and spiritual beings who have
chosen their own life lessons and challenges and believing in their
ability to deal with and benefit from those tests.
There is a story (which I believe is true) about a man who saw a
butterfly struggling to get out of its cocoon. The man decided to help
the butterfly by cutting the cocoon open with his pen allowing the
butterfly to get free with no effort at all. However, the butterfly
could not fly because only through the effort of pushing with its wings
on the walls of the cocoon could the wings become strong and develop for
flying. And so, the butterfly remained ground bound.
Due to our love and concern for our loved ones and especially our
children, we often make the mistake of solving their problems for them
so that in the end they have no wings to fly with. The best way to help
our loved ones is to perform Ho’oponopono (which we will discuss
later) and to visualize them filled with the inner light of their own
true spiritual self in order to energize them with power and inner
Your opportunities for growth and evolution come in doses that may
stretch your “spiritual muscles” but not so much that they will
damage them, unless you yourself choose to ignore your inner power. For
instance, if we want to increase the weight we can lift, there is no
sense in lifting the same weights we have been lifting for years. We
need to increase the weight but not so much that we will break our backs
trying. In the same way, we “choose” opportunities for growth that
test our “spiritual muscles” but always in doses that we have the
power to deal with. You will never be given a growth opportunity that is
beyond your ability to deal with. You, however, have the free will to
access your inner power or to ignore it and feel weak thus allowing the
event/situation to drag you into pain, fear, despair, depression, and
helplessness. Some people, after suffering and/or fearing at first, will
then recoup and reconnect to their inner power, while there are others
that do not. It is your choice.
All events and realities are personally created - even in all
encompassing catastrophes. Christ mentioned when talking about the
second coming that: “Two men will be in the field, one will be taken
and one will remain. Two women will be at the mill, one will be taken
and one will remain.” This means to me that even in a massive
catastrophe - whether it be an earthquake, flood, fire, or an economic
crisis - that which will happen to each individual will be what each
specific soul needs at that particular time. Nothing will happen to you
because it is happening to others.
Excerpted from "Dealing with Testing Times: "Remaining Strong, Healthy and Happy in Crises"" by Robert Elias Najemy. Copyright © 2011 by Robert Elias Najemy. Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher. Excerpts are provided solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.