Life Keeps Shifting and Moving
This is a very interesting time to be alive. Many people are paralyzed with fear and see circumstances and events all around them to be concerned about.
Many others are energized with excitement and opportunities to grow and develop in new ways and directions. Have you noticed that your world, your country, your neighborhood, your workplace, your family, your body and your mind have really shifted in the last year or so?
We are all shifting from what was to what is and to what will become.
What is a Shift?
A shift is a change in position, circumstances or direction. What we had come to think of as normal everyday life has become different. It is not as predictable as we once thought.
The rhythm of daily life used to flow more easily and you could count on a fairly even balance, even though there were hard spots. Adversity and difficult times are part and parcel of a life journey. However, most of us knew enough about how to handle a tough situation because of family history or past experiences.
Are these tough times and overwhelming changes affecting your life? Do you see others who seem to be bouncing back from adverse situations? Do you see some people use unemployment as a spring board to start a new business? Do you see some people who have lost all material possessions seem almost grateful to live a simpler life?
Events Are Temporary
Disappointments can set us back in every area of life. Bad things do happen to good people and everyone experiences difficult times differently. But those who are most resilient and bounce back recognize that circumstances may have changed, but life will go on in new directions. They will learn new strengths and skills and grow in undreamed of ways.
Your distress and anguish will lessen with time, and eventually you will be able to reflect on the life lessons learned in events and circumstances.
I have confidence in your ability to survive and conquer the fear you are facing right now. The times may be tough, but you are tougher.
Often when we least expect it, life throws us a curveball or a shift. Sometimes it is a big ball, and we can prepare for it and anticipate how to deal with it. Like a new baby coming and you have nine months to get ready. Sometimes we can’t anticipate and it hits us in the head and in the heart.
For instance: an unexpected illness or death of a loved one can throw your life out of balance while you are dealing with the immediate crisis. Everything is put on hold in order to focus on the current need.
Sometimes it is a small ball, like a sprained ankle, which will be uncomfortable and take a little adapting but is not life threatening. Perhaps it was a lost wallet, which is annoying and irritating but fixable.
Perhaps, like many others in the world, you began to have doubts and fears as your constant thoughts. You may have given up hope for a brighter future and an easier daily life.
You may feel a darkness or shadow when you are associating with negative people and events. Your thoughts and your body feel heavy, sluggish and slow to make decisions.
There is a simple strategy optimistic people use when faced with pessimistic or negative thoughts: Challenge your brain right on the spot. When facing a difficult situation and your negative self-talk begins running through your mind, STOP
Now ask yourself to come up with one piece of evidence to show that the thought is not true. It may have been true in one instance, but it is not true forever.
Fight off the pessimistic view by coming up with a thought that will frame the immediate situation in a more optimistic way.
- Adverse Situation - Your boss makes a rude remark about your report.
- Negative self-talk - She hates me. I am going to get fired. This is just the tip of the iceberg; she has probably been talking about me behind my back.
· Stop and challenge the thought - She must be having a bad day. I am usually right on with my reports. I will double check my facts next time. I am a good employee who is well-liked and respected.
This really does work and like all life skills, it takes practice. I have personally witnessed pessimistic and depressed kids completely turn around their thinking. If a parent or loved one is willing to help you see that negative self-talk is self-defeating and not accurate, it will be like switching on the overhead light.
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