The Art of Sane Aging for Women: Embrace the Journey

The Art of Sane Aging for Women: Embrace the Journey

by Camille Goscicki


Publisher Blurb

Published in Health, Fitness & Dieting/Aging, Self-Help, Health, Fitness & Dieting, Nonfiction

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Book Description

What is sane aging? It’s about letting go of the chains that hold you back from living a good life: fear, shame, regret, and pain. How to break those chains? Choose a kick-ass attitude, disrupt those aging stereotypes, and take strong, positive actions to demolish them. Any woman can age sanely. Let The Art of Sane Aging for Women help get you get started.

Sample Chapter

I talk to myself – a lot. Must be an age thing. Or could it be a trait of my astrological sign, Gemini, the twins? Since I’m like two people, I’m allowed to converse with myself. (Or maybe I simply need therapy. Whatever)

How about you? Do you have an internal conversation going on all day? If so, are you always berating or picking on yourself for small mistakes? Is your emotional wellness suffering because negativity thrives in your mind?

What about at bedtime, when you should be relaxing, but instead, you’re going over all the terrible mistakes you made during your day? For many of us, the bad stuff starts to gnaw at us at night, when we’re not filling up our time with activities. Our body is trying to unwind, but our mind won’t let us do that.

Yep, we all hate bullies; yet we let our internal bully beat us up without fighting back.

This type of internal bullying only leads to: 

  • Stress
  • Excessive worry
  • Anxiety
  • Insomnia
  • Fear
  • Anger 
  • Sadness

So, is your internal self-talk negative or positive? It may sound weird, but you are what you think. As David James Lees points out: “Be mindful of your self-talk, it’s a conversation with the Universe.”1 If you’re constantly being self-critical, life will reflect that pessimistic outlook. On the other hand, clearing out these negative thoughts can make a big difference in how you view the world and how the world responds to you.

Could you imagine if we talked to our friends the way we talked to ourselves? We'd lose friends at a fast pace if we were constantly criticizing them. Yet we don't hesitate to talk harshly to ourselves when we make mistakes or fail in some way.

Maybe we think that acting this way toward ourselves will keep us from making the same mistakes. But in truth, chronic self-criticism just leads to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.2

Why not choose to be kind to ourselves, instead? Kristen Neff, an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas is a noted researcher in the area of self-compassion. In a 2014 study, she defined the concept and how it can improve our emotional health.3 It’s about letting go of critical self-judgment and the desire to be perfect. When we’re self-compassionate, we choose to support and encourage ourselves. The first step? Changing our self-talk.

It took me a long time to fight back against that bully. I started thinking about it several years ago, as I read Rhonda Byrne’s book, The Secret.4 Thanks to that book, I learned how to pay attention to my internal dialogue. My words weren’t pretty. I realized that I needed to make some changes.

After I took that first step, I stuck to it. I worked really hard to change those words. I chose self-compassion, rather than self-criticism. Though it took a while to become someone who respected and loved myself, it was worth the journey.

To age sanely, think about how you speak to yourself. The words you use can change your life.


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Author Profile

Camille Goscicki

Camille Goscicki

By day, Camille Goscicki is an Administrative Assistant in Human Resources for her local municipality. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration. As the co-chair of her workplace wellness program, she helps plan and coordinate wellness activities and writes wellness newsletters for employees. By night, she curates an online newspaper for women, Bea’s Vital Aging Weekly ( and is the founder of the blog, Vital Aging 4 Women. ( Mrs. Goscicki is also a certified Wellness Coach and Lifestyle Weight Management Specialist.

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