Bullies Create Bullies

Bullies Create Bullies

by Nati Carrillo


Publisher Sky Willabea

Published in Biographies & Memoirs/Memoirs, Biographies & Memoirs, Self-Help, Health, Fitness & Dieting, Literature & Fiction

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Book Description


Bullies are Not Always Big and Ugly

Are you a bully? Are you being bullied or know someone who is being bullied? Julieta struggled with bullies during her early school years and on until her Senior year in high school. Being around bullies was a main part of her life; she almost thought it was normal but Julieta tells her readers; it is NOT normal behavior.

Sample Chapter


Growing up in a large family is both a blessing and a curse. I grew up in a very large family of sixteen, eight brothers and eight sisters. My father, Hugo, and my mother, Daniela, were amazing role models. My father spent most of his life without a mom. He was only seven or eight years old when she died, so he grew up with his father and his only brother. My mother had both parents; they were traditional or old-fashioned, Catholic, and very strict. My brothers from oldest to youngest were Guadalupe, Tobias, Simon, Ernesto, Santiago (Chago), Benjamin, Juan, and Valentin. My sisters from oldest to youngest were Josefina, Malena, Laura, Emma, Alma, Camila, and Magdalena. I, Julieta, was the youngest from the girls. For the most part it was cool; however, as does happen in large families, not everyone feels like they belong and you become overlooked often in the most critical times. I do not regret growing up in a household full of challenging matters because it shaped me into a better, braver, and stronger individual. There were many days I felt right at home, but there also were those days I wished I had been the only child—highly unlikely because at this point in time Hispanic families had large families. I felt invisible because I could disappear for hours and no one would look for me, or even know I was gone. I felt nonexistent. I was number eleven of the living children. I had five younger brothers, and that is why I found it was easier to speak with guys; guys were less critical and had less drama going on in their lives. So I did boy things while growing up. I talked about and played with cars, played with marbles, and watched football games with my younger brothers. To me that was normal because my older sisters were into boys, and at that point we had nothing in common. The feeling of inattention or neglect is known as the middle child syndrome. It does exist, folks. This is a syndrome where middle children feel excluded because the first child may receive more privileges and/or responsibilities and the younger child is more likely to get pampered (Wikipedia, 2017). Middle children often are ignored (or at least we feel that way). It was quite difficult to get noticed among fifteen other siblings. There were so many of us competing for the same attention that, at the end of the day, I was satisfied with having my father and mother, a shared bed, and warm food to come home to every day. For me, that was awesome! As long as you were a well-behaved child, who was doing well in all your classes, did not have teachers calling your parents, and stayed out of any type of trouble like doing drugs, smoking, and/or drinking, you were pretty much an invisible child. This was acceptable, that is, until you hit the teenage years when you turned to friends instead of family. Friends become your number one go-to for advise and reassurance. There is longing for acceptance among peers that only friends can fulfill during this stage in life. Unfortunately, we often find friends who are unhealthy, ruthless, or bullies, yet we stand by them and start to make bad choices. Those choices, better known as freewill, become a lifetime of struggles and disappointments. So take it from someone who has made her share of mistakes in life, you have to love yourself first to love others. You have to have an idea where you want to be in life and what you want to do in life, write it down, look at it every week or month, and do this over and over again. Research says you accomplish 50 % of what you write down. Life is a journey. That journey is not always a smooth one, and life teaches us lessons. We take those lessons to another level. We learn from them, from our mistakes, and hopefully we do not repeat them. Know that there is a stage in your life, such as the teenage years, when you start craving love, nurturing, and attention from friends. At this point in life you are vulnerable, and you might be confused and develop unhealthy lifetime relationships that only lead you to a path of destruction. Listen to your parents when they offer you advice. They know what you are going through, believe it or not. They have lived and learned from their lives, and made similar choices or similar mistakes, so they are able to tell you what works and what does not. When your parents repeatedly tell you that a person “is not good for you,” he or she is probably someone you should stay away from. You as the obedient child, however, believe your parents just want you to be miserable and miss out on life. So you choose the contrary; you do your own thing, and yes, that decision will either ruin you or make you a better person. What choices are you likely to make? What and who is going to define you?


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Author Profile

Nati Carrillo

Nati Carrillo

Nati Carrillo was born in Edcouch, Texas. She is a graduate of the University of Texas at Brownsville with a master’s degree in nursing. She is a Board Certified Nurse Practitioner in Family Medicine. Nati writes about her experiences with bullies at home, at school, and in her relationships, and is thankful that her faith has kept her alive.

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